Todays rant comes from years of living with other people.
I do not think I am the easiest person to live with or even be friends with for that matter. But it is what it is. I have had a room mate since I was 17 minus a year or so when I was 20 (when I broke up with my douchy ex!! win!) That year was amazing!! I was able to spend money on whatever I wanted, my apartment was never dirty because I was the only person living there and I made little mess and if I did I cleaned it up immediately!
My first room mate, at the age of 17, was the laziest piece of crap ever. We were friends prior to this (due to other circumstances we wouldn’t have been friends whether we lived together or not) She never ever ever did her dishes!! I mean never, I cleaned mine and left hers until we were out of dishes!! All she ever made was pizza pops!! She vacuumed once and that is when I moved out because it was my vacuum cleaner and she wanted to clean her house before I took it. We would throw parties and never clean up after them. I hated it.
So then I moved in with my docuhy ex bf. Well he literally did nothing, didn’t pay rent, didn’t clean… So two years wasted time and life there.. aaannndd moving on
I then moved in with my two cousins (a boy and a girl) and my cousins boyfriend. My cousins boyfriend was literally the laziest human being I have ever met. He never went to class, didn’t work and expected him gf, my cousin to do everything for him. I constantly cleaned up after these people. The garbage was over flowing daily and no one but me ever took it out. The girl cousin of mine is a year younger than me and treated me like I was her 12 year old daughter… As you can guess, that did not go over well. They drank heavily and I do not, so they had a lot of parties and I had to clean up after them and would get very little sleep because of them. I eventually moved out (and update, my cousin and her douchebag bf have now broken up!!)
Now onto the reason as to why I am writing this today! I now live with my bf of 2 years, we have lived together for about a year and a half. I love him and he does a lot for me regarding my vehicle and computer and anything else electronic. But I do the majority of the cleaning, all of the cooking, 90% of the grocery shopping and when I try to talk to him about this he just defends himself and says he cleans. He does, sometimes…. He vacuums, that’s HIS chore.. yet I have vacuumed multiple times since we have moved in. When I clean the kitchen from top to bottom he always cleans the stainless steel appliances because he doesn’t think I would do it right, and he cleans up after lunch and or supper when I cook for him. He has his man cave downstairs that he cleans, but I did once and I got in shit for not putting things back properly.. so I’ll never do that again.. I always clean the bathrooms.. I believe he has twice and he uses the one downstairs all the time.. and boys are gross.. they somehow get poop on the outside of the toilet!!
I tried confronting him about this today and he just bitched at me.. I’m tired of fighting about this when I know I do way more work than him. He says he’s busy.. Well hello!! I’m a student, I work part time, volunteer and make sure he has something to eat everyday.. I’m busy too!! Yet somehow I manage to try to keep our house clean. Now to put our house into perspective, it is a 100 year old character house that has undergone renos every summer since we moved in 2 years ago. The first year was building a garage in the back yard, this past summer was the entire upstairs was ripped out and re done.. and from no fault of my bf’s it took way longer than it should have. We were quoted 3 weeks.. it started in mid June and it is January now and is still not done!! The house in 3 floors and has 2 flights of carpeted stairs. We have 2 long haired cats that love to rub up against those stairs. The stairs should be vacuumed weekly… But they get vacuumed once a month if I’m lucky…
Now before people start to complain about me not being flexible, trust me.. I’m a lot better than I used to be.. I just think having a clean home is important and should be upheld by everyone living in the house!!
Because he feels he is busy should not excuse the fact that I am as well and also taking on a larger work load in HIS house because he is too lazy or “overwhelmed” to clean himself.
If feel like there may be a sequel to this rant….
Thanks for reading
Michayoo